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>>145
oh yeah this is good advice. it seems obvious but I never really thought about this, and this seems super do-able.

I guess part of it is also getting over my own insecurities, especially when it comes to kink stuff, since this is the first time I've had a lot of kinky people around me consistently. This would also explain why I can let my guard down a bit and relax and get with people easier abroad, because I don't worry as much.

I do think a lot of people I come across though are kinda awkward with it and may be like stepping over some lines a little bit, but only because they're also autistic and awkward like me too. I'm still dealing with some trauma stuff too, and I find people get a bit too eager with some darker stuff they should probably check first with, which causes me to recoil.

Still though, I feel like I'm in a better place in general right now, and this advice gives me confidence with the next time I put myself out there a bit, I'll probably be able to know roughly what to do. Thank you!

>>146
oh yeah I guess I should mention that I used to not be hot and now apparently i'm really hot, which I know pretty objectively even if my internal body image wanes.

It's a very weird thing to be thrown in. Like I didn't believe it for a while because it felt like a wish fulfilment feminization fiction, where my dick shrank, I got huge hips and E cup tits, my feet shrank (the only shoes I had that fit me for like 3 months were 3" stiletto heels), I shrank to 5'4", super femme soft face and everything, and like everyone literally started treating me like a girl the day I moved to this city, like it became impossible for me to boymode suddenly, I coincidentally became friends with a bunch of porn people, and like hot porno girls started messaging me without me messaging them first because they thought I was hot. People don't recognise old photos of myself as me any more.

This isn't really like me asking for more advice with this information I just wanted to like get it out there because it's insane to me and also I want to brag a bit. The first day I came here I didn't change anything about how I dressed and people told me to go to the girls bathroom when I went to the boys.

>>147

In retrospect it makes sense like trans women make fiction and games drawing from their own experiences, but like it feels like I got sucked into someone's horny story or something where I met my first girlfriend who I had a threesome within the first couple days of meeting her and made out with her sloppy style under this nice bridge by the river in New York.

I'm a bit drunk and rambling but this shit is crazy right? Is this just like normal or am I really lucky somehow? Everyone thinks I'm like 10 years younger than I am as well. Like I had a bunch of horrible shit happen as well that feels very unlucky in the opposite direction, but still this transition shit is insane. I played a force femme game the other day and the "insane proportions" my character ended up with had smaller hips than I do irl.

>>146
yea usually its awkward all around the board with these things if im hanging with people who you click with

if you interact with the same people online too at least for me the easiest thing im used to do is like.. i just send kinky memes, art and games and stuff. it helps to gauge interest and find people who think the same stuff is neat

>>147
gz on the sudden hot girl status, definitely makes things easier with getting laid but i can totally understand if things just changed super drastically youre just missing a ton of steps and experience

>>148
your experience does sound pretty extreme but imo its not unheard of. like if i met my pre-trans self id also be losing my shit and cumming on sight at just how i look nowadays?? its been a ton of years but still. getting into romantic/sexual relationships and stuff is waaaaaaaay easier now but at least for me i do have to chalk it up to also me being a battlehardened autistic adult way with more experience by now instead of being a mid dumb autistic teen boy lol

Good point! That's so true!